Conventional Psychology Interpretation says for man, his body moves before his mind where as for woman her
mind moves before her body. Thus, a true love is recognized when both the body and the minds of the man and the woman are involved. However, this principle does not fit when analysing an affair psychology and it even goes as far as distorting the basis of all the psychology.
Affair Psychology Hypothesis 1
When a man turns towards woman, his body (sexual instinct) moves before his formation of idea. When a woman turns towards a man, her mind moves before her body (sex). In other words, a man does not possess mind but an idea. A woman does not possess an idea but a mind. Therefore a man forms an idea to suit the woman and loves her together with his whole being and woman loves when her mind and body is moved together.
— refer to 6-2 Man does not possess a mind —
Affair Psychology Hypothesis 2
dec ——dating / before marriage——— after marriage
Man ——passion (sexual instinct)———-love by idea
Woman——-love from mind ————–passion (motherly love instinct)
During dating period, a man will feel passionate which is based upon sexual instinct. A woman feels love from her mind. After the marriage these changes. A man loves a woman with his whole being based upon his idea. A woman will be passionate out of motherly love.
— refer to 6-3 Different instinct – mand and woman —
Affair Psychology Hypothesis 3
Because a man does not have a mind, he is not hurt (near 100%). Idea on the other hand is sensitive to stress and does not evolve into depression. When a man is stressed he is obsessed to get away from it because he does not have a buffer to ease it from his mind (as he does not have one). His instinct has to find a way to feel comfortable. As for woman she does not feel stressed as she has no idea but she gets hurt of mind. Therefore she gets depressed. This hurt is piled up and when it is too much, depression occurs and the instinct hurts herself.
— refer to 6-4 Stress and depression —
Affair Psychology Hypothesis 4
When a man is stressed, he would normally activates his instinct to get away from the stress immediately and feel comfortable. He would seek whatever means he has. In addition, when deprived of his pleasure and joy, he feels stressed and will activate his instinct to recover that pleasure and joy. Thus a man will do whatever he can to get away from stress and maintain his pleasure.
— refer to “the reality of man stress” of future blog post —
Affair Psychology Hypothesis 5
When a woman is hurt from man, she has hurt in her mind which by her instinct will require consolation. When consoled of her hurt, she will feel comfortable thinking it is love. When hurt of mind is consoled, she would recognize that love equals sex.
— refer to “6-5 Consolation leads to woman sex” of this blog post —
Affair Psychology Hypothesis 6
A woman gets married because she loves the man with her mind and has sex with him. A man has sex with a woman out of sexual instinct and the sexual pleasure is mistaken as love and he gets married to the woman. In other words, a woman marries out of love but a man marries because he gets loves mistaken.
— refer to “You are married because you are mistaken” of future blog post —
Affair Psychology Hypothesis 7
When an affair happens, the wife rages because she feels that her husband’s mind and love is taken away to the adultress, rather than the act of having sex with another woman. In fact, a man has an affair because he enjoys sex with the adultress and it has nothing to do with mind (as he does not possess one). On the other hand, a husband rages because of the fact that his wife had sex with the adulterer rather than the fact that her mind feels love with that man. In reality, she is consoled for her hurt and sex is only an expression of her mistaken love.
In this sense, man and woman has different point of view and rage and hurt deepens as the misinterpretation and misunderstanding occur.
— refer to “Truth and myth of husband and woman affair” of future blog post —
The above mentioned 7 hypothesis are the bases upon which the affair principle has been developed. From this principle, prevention of affair, and solution to affair problem and related methods are developed.
Also, as the affair problems are solved, the above mentioned 7 hypothesis proved to be true out of two thousand and five hundred cases over 80% couples were successful in fully restoring couple happiness. Over 90% of the rage treatment turned successful.
Upon these 7 hypothesis, detailed affair psychology will be described and systematic method and ways are to be introduced (in this blog).
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