[12-20] Is your husband abnormal sexuality?

Quite a large number of husbands ask their wives to go a bit extreme in having sex.

It is worthwhile to think about the term ‘pervert’

Sexual perversion is sexual behaviors that is considered to be new and not known

to other couples. However, such judgements are only personal. For a wife, such a

behavior is not acceptable. Also pervert sexual behaviors should not be judged to

be good or bad.

Is perversion really bad for couple relationship?

A wife should know that the husband really needed courage to ask such a thing. He

would never (under normal circumstances) demand that. He has demanded thinking

that it would be acceptable to his wife.

Thus, rejection without mutual understanding might block any further diversified

sexual activities in the further and would only bring boredom.

First of all, one need to stop and think why he is asking such a thing. Judgements

can be made afterwards.

Normally, perversion comes when a couple seek changes in their sexual

intercourse. In this sense, perversion can be one of the means to enjoy having sex.

In some way, the happiest couple might be those who enjoy ‘different’ sexual

behaviors together.

Of course, I mean the activities involving couple only and not including the others

such as threesome or swapping. Such acts are something that goes beyond

perversion and requires serious treatment.

If you are seeking changes in couple sex, you need an advisor. I dare say that there

is not perversion in a strict couple relation. It is only deplorable that some goes

beyond barrier and face grave difficulties and pains and even lead to personal

disasters.

Changes in couple sex can be enjoyable. You would never know when you have

not tried it.

If your husband is demanding something that is difficult for you to accept, or if you

want to ask your wife to have changes in your couple sex, do send us an e-mail

ASAP and for free.

Everyone deserve to be happy and be satisfied.
Dong Won Benest 1109, 522-1 Han Nam Dong, Yong San Gu, Seoul. Republic of

Korea
e-mail : happy4couple@gmail.com

[12-19] Is your spouse asking too much sex?

It can be irritating when your spouse asks too much sex.

Enjoyable sex, yes but if is too much and if it exceeds a certain level, sex can be

noting but pain. What is important is to define the level of excessive which totally

depends on each couple.

If only one of the party is satisfied it means that there has been lack of mutual

understanding. This is one of the reasons that a couple goes sexless.

However, the solution is just simple.

If you are demanding sex, why don’t you let your partner be satisfied with

intercourse before you demand anything. How enjoyable that would be as both the

couple would be happy together.

If your partner is asking much sexual activities, all it takes is to find a way to enjoy it

yourself? If you are satisfied in having sex and if your partner is demanding it, would

your life be happier or miserable?

Finding a way to be happy together is the only and the simple way to couple

problem.

The reason why I always consider sex as important is not groundless.

Any one can enjoy having sex with his/her partner (regardless of age, size or

figure.)

So, now stop blaming others for demanding or not demanding sex. Open your eyes

wide open and see what the problems are.

If you cannot find the problem or the cases thereof, do sen us a free e-mail service

as a start.

Everyone deserve to be happy and be satisfied.
Dong Won Benest 1109, 522-1 Han Nam Dong, Yong San Gu, Seoul. Republic of

Korea
e-mail : happy4couple@gmail.com

[5-25] Rage and trauma treatment for cheated wives

!! Husband’s affair !!

When a husband’s affair is revealed, the wife extends her rage and suffers excruciating pain as she blames her husband. The cheating husband also goes under hardships as he does not know what to do.

Would you believe that such couples can be treated with Affair Counselling and psychology treatment programs that we offer?

You can be alone or together with your spouse. The rage of the cheated and the pains of being cheated can be treated.

!!! Hurts and rage of the cheated!!!

Happy Research offers solution to affair and infidelity programs which has been developed from clinical experiences over sixteen years now. The current success rate shows stunning 90% for “rage and trauma treatments” and this treatment is based on BonNeung Psychology Theory that Happy Research have developed.

The reactions from our clients were surprises and wonder as they find the changes in their psychology interesting and amazing. With the treatment done, some clients even find the program mysterious. It is a privilege to experience our “Rage and Trauma Treatment”

The cheated who suffer from pains and rage, the cheating who want to ease their spouse’s pains and hardships should come to Happy Research and experience our solution. This solution would provide hopes for the couples and would release them from psychological pains and hardships.

Regardless of whether the husband is still cheating or has stopped cheating, the rage and pains of the cheated wives has to be solved.

For details do send us an e-mail below. Do not live in the rage, pains and sufferings from affair problem any more. Time does not solve these.

4th Fl., Shindonghwa Bldg., 213 Dosandaero, Seoul

South Korea

Tel. 82-2-548-8533

E-mail – happinessinc@naver.com

[12-13] Wife Avoids Having Sex

Couples have sex. It is their ways of mutual communication and therefore is very important.

I have seem many male clients who were having troubles and conflicts because their partners avoid or even refuse to have sex with them.

For man, being in such situation brings self-disrespect and anger as they feel that they are rejected.

Of course, these feelings will enact as a starting point of couple problem. The female partners at first will feel sorry but as time goes by, they tend to give up the situation as they do not know what to do.

Then, why do the female partners, or wives avoid sex?

There can be various reasons but psychological phase should be considered seriously.

First of all, in sex, women regards psychological feeling more important than that of the physical. When the husband takes self-oriented attitude without considering the wife, the wife naturally shuns having sex as this brings self-despise and sense of disconnection for them.

Secondly, when there are conflicts in couple life, it is natural that they be drifted apart. This is frequently shown when the first baby arrives. Wives feel psychological and physical stress with the baby and when the care and help from the husband is not there, she will be hurt and it gets deeper.

Third example can be found in the wife’s child life. Being brought up in an unexpected or destructive family, with the father as an oppressive figure, the wife might be oppressing the sex desire as the womenhood had been conceived negative.

The next case can be found from appropriate sex related incident in childhood.
According to a report (Korean one) around 90% of child sex abuse was committed by next of kin expecially by step or biological father. These hurts are too big to be shared and induced denial in sexuality.

People get married and they share and confirm their love with their body and mid.
Husbands need to think of mental side for wives. If she is having mental hurts, they should be shared and cared after together. Marriage is a long journey based upon trust as life companion, filling up what is missing for each other.

Happy Research Co., Ltd.
Dong Won Benest 908, 522-1 Han Nam Dong, Yong San Gu, Seoul. Republic of Korea
e-mail : happy4couple@gmail.com

[11-8] The Cheating Does Not Know How Much The Cheated Is Hurt

One of the most difficult thing for the cheated is the difference in understanding the hurt. In other words, the cheating husband do not know how much he has hurt his wife. The cheating wife do not know how much she has hurt her husband. This is why the cheated falls seriously in mental hurt.

If the cheating would actually feel the hurt the cheated has felt, he/she would never commit adultery again.

Well, here is the thing. Pinch your partner. The partner will scream out of pain. However, you would not actually feel the pain. You would only guess from the actions and the frown of the other. Your partner explains how much it hurts and gets angry that he/she feels so painful. You, the pincher, says, what the hell, everyone can endure that and that it is nothing.

Thus the problem arises as the two have different understanding of the pain.

Another problem is that understanding this difference is impossible. Thus, fight, violence, separation or divorce comes as the two partners insists their own opinion.

A wife is hugely hurt from the husband affair. A husband is stressed at the most degree. Man and Woman feels differently in affair problems because they have different psychology. This is why it is almost impossible to understand each other.

If the pincher can feel the pain of the pinched, then he/she will apologize and will never every pinch again.

On the contrary, the pinched, after having understood that the partner is not able to feel the pain, should try to make the partner to feel the pain and realize it.

The core in solving the affair problem is the mutual understanding of the differences in man and woman.

Happy Research Co., Ltd.
Dong Won Benest 908, 522-1 Han Nam Dong, Yong San Gu, Seoul. Republic of Korea
e-mail : happy4couple@gmail.com

[8-10] Affair Problem Is Not The Start Of Marriage Problem.

Generally, we say the affair problem means marriage problem or couple problem.

Efforts are made through information searching or counselling so that the affair problem is solved and the depression or other psychological problems that are accompanied are treated. Especially the thought that the marriage is in trouble makes it harder and scary for the clients to be calm.

It would be hard to swallow but the truth of the fact is that there has already been marriage problem may from a long time ago.

If you think back, something has changed from your spouse, especially regarding sex. In other words, there were symptoms or signs of warning that the marriage is in crisis. The real problem was that it was not noticed and was disregarded.

It is so easy to prove this from thousands of counselling cases.

– Sex seems meaningless and not enjoyable <perhaps the most dramatic change)
– dry and meaningless words rather than warm ones.
– thinking only for oneself rather than the understanding of the other
– family becomes larger than the feeing of love
– no regard for what the other wants

these are some signs to name a few.

These symptoms, left unchanged and prolonged, will lead to affair. Usually Sex problem which is likely develop into serious situation, is not dealt and the couple remains silent about this. Especially those couple who do not know sex well are exposed to bigger danger as they lack the ability to recognize the situation.

Marriage problem is not one-sided. It takes two to tango. Marriage problem is caused by both the husband and the wife therefore it is wise for both of them to feel responsible in solving the marriage problem.

It has to be made clear that however, the affair problem is not a marriage problem.

An affair problem is totally different from simple marriage or couple problem as it involves having sex with adulter/adultress and as it brings a death sentence to marriage. The answer to who is responsible is crystal clear. It is the cheater that is 100% responsible for the affair problem.

I dare say the cheating husband is 100% responsible for his own affair. The husband is roughly 80% directly responsible when his wife cheated or had an affair.

It’s never too late. It is wise to solve any kind of small couple problem and so is the problem of affair. Effort has to be made to set things right rather than feeling rage, trouble or hardships.

When will you stop feeling rage, doubt about your husband / wife? When will you stop fighting and quarrel?

Without finding the problem within yourself, it will be impossible to solve the affair problem. Without understanding the exact cause of the problem, a right solution cannot be found.

Focusing on the affair itself will not solve the problem completely. Doing so will lead to endless fight and dispute, pointing fingers to each other. Both the husband and wife will be knocked down and the final decision will always be divorce as they say they have done everything they can.

An affair problem is not a kind of a marriage problem. An affair problem is aftermath of total package of marriage problem.

Happy Research Co., Ltd.
Dong Won Benest 908, 522-1 Han Nam Dong, Yong San Gu, Seoul. Republic of Korea
e-mail : happy4couple@gmail.com

[8-8] What Are You To Your Spouse?

Not many people think of this after being married.

People get married because they dream of happy future and because they are passionately in love. They try to make a happy family but what has become of them?

Are you still passionate and care about your spouse?
Are you trusting your spouse and communicate with him/her?
Can you still say that your spouse is THE ONE?

Let’s take a time and think.

Are you The One to your spouse?
Do you need your spouse badly?
Are you sharing your feelings and thoughts with each other?
Are you having happy couple sex?
Isn’t your spouse lonely because you are busy with work and success?
Aren’t you delaying happiness because of what is in front of you?
Isn’t your spouse having a hard time and painful?

Do not forget the first time you have met. Do not forget the passion.

Think of yourselves before blaming the fault of your spouse. Think hard and you will find that there are problems in yourselves. This way, you will find what to do to be happy together and find what changes to make in you first.

Do not say that you don’t know.
If you are without a spouse, do not give up.
What you need is advices.

For your changes and to find ways to be happy together, advices are necessary and it’s never to late.

Now is the time to make you and your couple to be happy.

Happy Research Co., Ltd.
Dong Won Benest 908, 522-1 Han Nam Dong, Yong San Gu, Seoul. Republic of Korea
e-mail : happy4couple@gmail.com

[10-7] It Is Important To Release Your Oppressed Mind & Feelings

After the affair of the spouse is revealed, the cheated gets trouble because of hard feelings and oppressed mind. This very typical at the initial stage of the counselling.

It is not easy to speak openly about the troubles and oppression and most of the times, it is kept by oneself. Sometimes the cheated feels ashamed and feel conscious of the other people around; relatives, neighbors and friends. The affair problem is kept within oneself.

The causes of oppression and trouble is from
– Extramarital affair of the spouse
– The hardships and the endurance experienced during the marriage
– Sex related problems and troubles
– Selflessness and helplessness
– Psychological rage
– and others

The typically those listed below are more prone to these feelings
– Repeated affair and cheating of the spouse
– Repeated abuse, violence and conflict
– Individual happiness is put aside in the place of the happiness and calmness of the family and the spouse.
– Individuals who thinks that endurance is the best policy in solving problems and troubles.
– Frequent couple fights
– Troubled with sex related problems and troubles
– Individuals with personal and private secret

You will be surprised to know that there are so many who are in these categories. Fortunate and brave are those who come to the sessions for counselling as they will be provided with support to ease these disturbing mind and feelings

The problems they are faced with are

– psychological hurt from psychological oppression
– loss of self-esteem and confidence
– high dependency and tendency towards loneliness
– Regret of one’s life and sense of unhappiness
– Uncertainty and conflict about future

1. It is necessary to speak out and find the solution to the fundamental problem.

This will enable the hurt to be treated simultaneously gaining support and comfort by sharing. However, it is very dangerous to get support and comfort alone as it might generate other problems.

2. Self-esteem and confidence together with making the happiness of one’s own have to be sought

Through calmness and comfort of mind, it will be possible to make a reasonable choice with a coold head and eventually design a happy life of the client

For this to be possible, stability of mind is very important.

Therefore the first step in the affair counselling is to ease the oppressed mind and feelings and gain the stability of mind. This will enable the rage and the psychological hurt to be treated. In otherwords, the stability of mind of the cheated is the core and a essential factor in a solution to affair problem.

However, it is not easy for the cheated to stabilize the mind as the rage and hurt all together arouse with the event of affair. This is where understanding the mechanism of BonNeung or instinct comes in. This will let the hurt to stop and stabilize the mind.

Those who have suffer for a long time would know that the mear an simple psychology treatment is limited as most of the counselors or therapists do not understand the level of affair problem. It has a league of its own.

The starting point of the affair solution is the stability of mind (of the cheated)

Happy Research Co., Ltd.
Dong Won Benest 908, 522-1 Han Nam Dong, Yong San Gu, Seoul. Republic of Korea
e-mail : happy4couple@gmail.com

[8-7] Affair Evolves When Repeated

It is so natural that the rage occurs when the extramarital affair is revealed. However, it is not well known that the affair tends to be evolved and teach itself as it is repeated.

Most of the time, the cheated focuses on why the cheater did this and that. Frequent quarrels and fights occur and as a result both the cheater and the cheated are hurt. Sense of betrayal will bring more serious problems.

It would be fortunate if the cheater truly understands the mistakes and asks for an apology sincerely. However, most of the times the cheater would want to get away from the stress and starts to be careful. The affair teaches the cheater to be more careful and to avoid stress. The cheater would try to avoid being caught the next time.

A mere begging of the cheater is only from the intention of being away from the stress and trouble and usually the cheated wants to cover up the situation. The couple will live normally as if nothing happened. In this case, the odds of affair repetition is really high.

I have seen many cases where the repeated affair is caused from the wrong measures taken at the initial incident. The cheaters had been teaching themselves how to cheat “better” the next time.

The rage, fights, quarrels and even violence let the affair to evolve itself. Therefore it is very important to be treated with rage first and with a clear and cool head the cause of the affair has to be analysed so that the further affair would not occur once and for all. This is the only way to prevent additional affair problems.

Again it is not wise to solve the affair problem by the couple’s effort alone. Rage and fights will only teach the affair to be evolved.

Happy Research Co., Ltd.
Dong Won Benest 908, 522-1 Han Nam Dong, Yong San Gu, Seoul. Republic of Korea
e-mail : happy4couple@gmail.com

[8-6] Sexless Couples – A Red Light

I find that over 90% of my clients are sexless couples.

When I explain how very dangerous and serious sexless couple is, the clients at first do not get it.

Sexless couples are found in every aspect of ages not to mention the couples in their twenties. Especially, sexless couples in their thirties, forties and fifties are directly linked to extramarital affair.

– we have sex only twice a month
– never had sex in months (years)
– we are comfortable without sex

These are all the typical words from sexless couples.

Clients find the affair problem very serious but do not feel the importance of sex. This is found in both the husband and the wife.

Are you saying the followings? Then you are not OK.

– We have been married for so long, why the sex?
– We are grandparents now, why the sex?
– Why the sex? We have no problem living together.
– I can do without sex. I have other hobbies.

It should be noted that the affair problem comes when there is no sex. Regardless of how old you are, you have to be happy and have sex. Sexless couples are not normal.

Are you normal?

Extramarital affair mainly comes from sex; sexless couple problems. Sexless is a red light and with the time, both the couple will suffer from affair.

Would you not care if you are sexless but your spouse is having sex with another? Think about it.

Happy Research Co., Ltd.
Dong Won Benest 908, 522-1 Han Nam Dong, Yong San Gu, Seoul. Republic of Korea
e-mail : happy4couple@gmail.com