There are things that are not spoken out.
Be the center of your own world!
Such are the words that I have been told and that I have told to my children. Yes, you only live “Once”
Marriage, Love.. they change you, a woman, into a dependant being. Everyone has their own talents. Housekeeping, is not something that is highly praised. This is especially so to the woman with no high social background.
There was a pretty young twenty-two year old piano teacher.
She graduated from a community college. She was a girl next door. She looked pail that day. I had a strange feeling so I asked her what the matter was. She said that she had an abortion and the father was a married man. He is separated. He will be divorced soon and will marry her.
Such a stupid young lady!
She totally believed him. She was having pains on her breasts as the milk started to come out. She was enduring all the physical pains. The married man was a well-known professor of a music college.
She was a naive and pretty lady. That married man was after a young ones. I had to spend a whole day to talk her out of the relation. It was so obvious for me what that man really was.
This young lady didn’t realize how precious she was. She gave herself to a man with background thinking that he overvalues her and that she would be happy with a divorced man as she was of lower profile.
How stupid and silly she was!
Her mother was also backing her idea.
What went wrong?
The ignorant mother was ruining her daughter’s life. This was a stark reality.
Everyone is precious.
No one deserves to be underestimated or looked down upon.
No one should be left hurting oneself!
When you cherish yourself, others will do the same to you.
If you look at men, they will flee away. They will feel burdened and will frown. They will abuse you as time goes by.
Love thyself. Be in love with you.
Isn’t this better than to be in love with anther and feel lonely?
I do not mean divorce here.
How strange human psychology is.
Those who deserted you will look back at you when you turn irrelevant, ignorant and not caring anymore.
Be the center of yourself.
If you have so many stories to tell, you have more chances of saying that your life had been fun at your death bed.
The only person who abuse you and think less of you is your husband.
You have lost your esteem and confidence because you are accustomed to it.
Think back how you were before marriage. Now stand up and today a new life, a wonderful life that you never dreamed of, will begin.
I recall my teacher’s word.
“Praise the good points weather it is right or wrong. That will bring the pride.” At first I didn’t get it but now I completely do so.
No one has to estimate the other. Every one has the ability to find the right and wrong and will follow the right paths.
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