When a husband affair is revealed, the wife expresses her rage, feels small and inferior to the adultress.
Especially the thought that her husband had an affair because of her own misdeeds and that she has treated her husband wrong prevails. Furthermore, she would blame herself and feel pain. The wife feels that the adultress is more attractive and comforts her husband better in mental and sexual ways.
The wife should know that she cannot be compared with the adultress. She is more precious to her husband than the adulteress. The adultress is only an object of sex so wife has to stop the wrong thoughts.
There are some, very stupid husbands who are addicted to sex and who cannot think properly. They think that sexual pleasure is all that matters in life and it equals to love. This is why they think the object of pleasure, the adultress, is their love. These are the most stupid man in the world.
However, in most of the husband affair cases, this is not so. Therefor it is important for the wife to know the difference between a wife and an adultress. In addition, the adultress herself should know what a fool she is to think that she is in love.
Now, the differences.
First, let’s look from the view point of the husbands recognition / idea
[Husband’s recognition]
Desc —Legal Protection — Social recognition — Mutual Responsibility
Wife ———- v ————————— v ———————– v
Adultress ——— x ———————— x ———————– x
Desc — Responsibility — Idea of Family — Duty
Wife ————- v —————— v —————— v
Adultress ——–— x —————- x —————— v (sex)
From this it is clear that the wife is protected by the law, is recognised by the society and has the right against the husband. She deserves to be happy as a family and has the responsibility to dedicate and sacrifice for the husband. She has a duty to be happy with the husband.
On the contrary, the adultress cannot be protected by the law, is a target of social blame and cannot claim any responsibility. She is a secret of the man and in turn her duty is to provide sex. The man (husband) has no other responsibility than that as a cost of her sex.
How different a wife and an adulteress is! How can anyone think that an adultress can take the place of a wife?
Adultress is a sex toy for the husband. The wife should know this. The adultress herself should know this. Love does not exist in an affair.
Second is found in the happiness of woman itself
[Happiness of a woaman]
Happiness — wife — adulteress
as a wife —– v —– x
as a mother — v —– x
as a woman — v — v (sexual pleasure)
There are three types of woman happiness. She gets married and dedicates herself to be happy in these three happiness areas. The wife is happy as a wife, mother and a woman.
She feels happy when she receives love and affection (sex and happiness) from the man who is also her husband. Even she is not happy yet, she makes efforts so that her future happiness will be achieved.
The adultress do not have happiness as a wife. It is so natural because the man she think she loves is not married to her. There is no children so there is no happiness as a mother.
Only one remains, sex, a pleasure without affection or happiness. This is why there is only sexual pleasure in an affair.
They tend to think that it is love which is a huge mistake, an illusion. The present effort of the husband in an affair is made in the hope that he can have sex with the adultress again in the future.
So, what is the true love here?
It is so evident that the wife do not have to feel less against the adultress. A wife cannot be compared with the adultress and she is such a precious being that no body can mistreat. Do not forget though you may be suffering from your husband’s affair, the adultress is only an adulatress, a sex toy.
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